Despite recent data showing a reduction in officially registered divorce cases, concerns remain high in Rwanda over the growing number of marriages ending within a few years, threatening the stability of the family unit and the wider society.
Statistics from Rwanda’s Judiciary indicate a decline in divorce cases from 8,941 in 2019 to 2,833 in 2023–2024, and 2,675 in 2024–2025. However, experts and community leaders say this does not signal the end of the problem, as divorces among couples married for less than ten years continue to rise.
Community members point to changing social and economic expectations as major contributing factors.
Lea Ihorere, a mother in her 60s who has been married for decades, believes many conflicts begin long before couples exchange vows.
“People rush into marriage without knowing each other well,” she said. “There is a lack of trust, and infidelity is becoming more common. Couples must take time to learn each other’s values, habits, and differences before getting married.”
For Emmanuel Kanani, in the early years of his marriage, unrealistic expectations and financial motives are among the biggest causes of failed unions. He says some young people enter marriage seeking wealth or status and hide important personal information including children or property status, leading to disappointment and mistrust after the wedding.
“Some feel they are still young and can easily start over, which shows emotional unpreparedness,” said Kanani. He recommends strengthening premarital education, suggesting that the current single-day training be extended to at least three months to better prepare couples for challenges ahead.
Family therapists also warn that modern lifestyles leave couples with little time to build emotional connections.
Jean Marie Vianney Mugisha advises couples to improve communication, avoid unnecessary arguments, and pay attention to each other’s feelings.
“Small misunderstandings can grow into bigger problems when partners stop listening to each other,” he noted.
Legal frameworks have also evolved to respond to the divorce trend. Rwanda’s updated law governing persons and family allows divorce in cases including infidelity, abandonment, domestic violence, and harmful behavior within the household.
Previously, divorces were sometimes used to target property distribution, especially in marriages with joint ownership. Today, according to Article 156, couples separating before completing five years of living together may not necessarily share property equally. Instead, courts can rule based on each party’s contribution, aiming to discourage rushed marriages that focus on wealth acquisition rather than partnership.
As national leaders, religious institutions, and civil society continue urging families to uphold strong values, the country is challenged to find balanced solutions that support young couples and safeguard Rwanda’s social fabric.
Author: Mellisse Sandrine Igihozo